At some point in our lives, we all want to experience the feeling of happiness. It’s what motivates us to fulfill our passions, and live creatively. But where does happiness stem from? What does happiness even mean? How can we achieve this level of happiness that makes us smile so big it makes our cheeks hurt and our hearts ache from being filled to capacity?

Different people have different definitions for happiness. Some categorize it with materialistic things, others with people. Trying to narrow down all these interpretations of happiness into one definition would just be a waste of time. Everyone thinks and experiences things differently, so they find happiness at different paces and in different ways.

I recently watched a video on how to make yourself more attractive, and the answer was so simple I couldn’t believe someone else had said it first. In the video, Tony Robbins, the author of Money: The Master Game, said if we “trade our expectations for appreciation” people will gravitate toward the positive energy we put out, thus finding us more attractive and pleasant to be around.

I thought about the phrase, and started to put it into practice. And it actually worked! It sounds so simple, but oftentimes people forget how much there is to be grateful for.

I believe happiness stems from this mindful practice of appreciation. Instead of focusing on the negative, try to think of what you can learn from it and how you can make the outcome positive. How can you grow from this challenge? What lessons will you take from it for your future endeavors?
Appreciate all the things that happen in your life, big or small, positive or negative. Be grateful for all the curveballs life throws at you, and the peaks and valleys because they are what shapes you into the person you are today. Be thankful for all that you have in your life right now, and don’t be dissatisfied with what you don’t. I firmly believe that everything does happen for a reason, and it’s up to you how you let those things either push you towards or pull you from a certain direction.
Don’t expect anything, just appreciate everything. Live wholeheartedly in the fullest expression of gratitude.


Nathalia Iole